Breastfeeding can be a beautiful bonding experience ... and also a challenging one. Many new moms are surprised by how hard it can feel at first. If you’re struggling, you’re not doing anything wrong. Breastfeeding is a learned skill for both you and your baby.
Here are 10 essential tips to help you get started with confidence and compassion for yourself.
Breastfeeding doesn’t always click right away (most times, it doesnt!). It’s normal for it to take 4-6 weeks to feel comfortable. Be patient, remember that you’re both learning something brand skill.
Many (many) have a dificult time learning how to latch their baby deeply. Figuring out where to place your hands can feel like a mystery. A deep latch helps prevent pain and allows your baby to get enough milk. If breastfeeding hurts beyond mild tenderness, that’s a sign something may need adjusting. Remember that help is available (reach out, I would love to help!).
Newborns have tiny stomachs and need to eat frequently. Feeding on demand (rather than on a strict schedule) helps establish your milk supply and supports your baby’s growth. Remember that the first 24 hours, we expect baby to be sleepy. They're still recovering from the delivery process so expect a very sleepy baby that isn't very interested in feeding (other than the first initial latch where they will likely feed great!).
Signs your baby is hungry include rooting, lip-smacking, or bringing hands to their mouth. Crying is often a late hunger cue, so early feeding signals are your best guide.
Use pillows, blankets, or a nursing chair to support your arms, back, and baby. Comfort matters, especially during long or frequent feeds. I would recommend feeding in a chair instead of in bed - you'll need adequate support to prevent back pain (and who needs to add back pain to the list of postpartum recovery list)!
Breastfeeding uses energy. Drink water regularly and eat balanced meals and snacks when you can. Taking care of your body helps support your milk supply.
Babies often nurse more frequently during growth spurts. This doesn’t mean you don’t have enough milk, it’s your baby’s way of helping increase supply.
Some tenderness can be normal in the beginning, but ongoing pain, cracked nipples, or concerns about baby’s weight gain deserve attention. Trust your instincts.
Let partners, family, or friends help with meals, household tasks, or baby care so you can focus on feeding and resting. Breastfeeding is not meant to be done alone.
Lactation consultants are trained professionals who specialize in breastfeeding support. They can help with latch issues, supply concerns, pumping, pain, and more (and often with just a few small adjustments). Reaching out early can make a big difference for your confidence and comfort. I can support you when you're baby is not latching, or if breastfeeding feels painful, teach you how to increase your milk supply, and so much more!
Every breastfeeding journey is unique. Whether you breastfeed for days, months, or longer (or combine feeding methods) what matters most is a healthy, supported mom and baby.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed or unsure, a lactation consultant can provide personalized guidance and reassurance for your family. You deserve support every step of the way.
